In our generation now, going to clubs/bars to hang out is too blunt. Why not swipe right and look for someone who will match your credentials (like they like you just the way you like them) I’m not washing any hands in this section because I, myself, have tried that thing too. (Tinder, OKCupid and Skout) Although, I’m not talking about me getting someone to hook up with but I just want to tell everyone how using this app can cause you major disconnection with the real world and the real steps on dating.

These are 10 signs that dating apps had invaded your life and you might want to have a second look from using it.

1. You have experienced ONE TEXT STAND.

This is when a guy you got matched with, talked to you for the whole night and then he unmatched or blocked you the next day. I mean, yeah, same with the usual one night stand but the difference is you never did anything although you shared some info about yourselves (sometimes it’s even personal). Too bad how other people think dating app is for casual hook ups only but it’s not. OKay you date but why not meet new friends using those?
I’ve met some who were like that, yes, I had experienced one text stand! and I also did that to someone for a reason.

2. You think that everyone in your office has a tinder account.

Hahaha! This I don’t know but might be true. Well, tinder is free so anyone can download it except for minors, I hope. As time goes by, I can see people being so timid and secretive with regards to talking about tinder. One of my friends said that he thinks if someone owns a dating app that means he/she is single and a bit desperate on finding the right one. I don’t agree with the desperate part. I mean, I’m a busy girl, I don’t have time to sit on a bench and wait for someone to approach me and say ‘hey I like you. can we date?’ there will always be the process.

3. You think that dating apps is a big help especially if you are a busy person.

Maybe for busy people, using apps like these(mentioned above) can help them lessen the awkward and long introduction in person; If the two of you meet after spending months of talking to each other over the phone maybe you can be comfortable with each other already, rather than be awkward on first date and don’t even talk that much. That’s a major turn off. Busy people have priorities, hello?

4. You always tell your friends that you met someone but not actually met them in person.

Let’s face it. When you talk to this guy for a long time, you think that you know him so well and you tell stories about him as if you already met and look into each other’s eyes.

5. Your first dates are usually inside the car with coffee for both of you, driving around the city and sitting on the hood of the car in front of the beach.

Romantic but a little too sad. It’s like hiding from everyone. But usually after that you will both decide to go to a restaurant for your second meeting or watch movies. Some people do the restaurant and movies first but those are not so often especially if you are living in a country where public display of affection is not allowed. (rolling my eyes while wriitng this. haha! sorry, I’m that weird)

6. You always blame your friends for not introducing you to someone they know whenever one guy you met on the dating app just made you think he’s the right one but he’s not.

Goodness sakes! I’ve been doing this every time the guy I’m texting fails to meet my standard. I keep on telling them ‘if you could’ve just give my number to someone you know whom I might like.’ haha! Kidding! I just did that once.

7. Your friends on your BBM and Whatsapp are mostly those whom you matched with.

Like even we don’t talk anymore, I still have their Pin and number. They just do broadcast messages and you just read them but don’t reply anymore because you are not talking to each other for a very long time.
Maybe in case this guy you thought you liked texts you again, you’ll know his name and never recall who he was. Tactics! haha!

8. You always get broken hearted online.

You may have met him on a dating app and you had few dates but still, you are not exempted from getting dumped in the future. Most of the time, relationships which started like this go straight to the trash bin after few months. Well, not all, maybe there are those successful ones.
It is hard to tell your friends you are not dating this guy anymore because they will ask you if you even dated normally.

9. There will always be that one who got away.

It’s not you, it’s him/her! It’s just because there is no establishment of strong communication that’s why you failed to continue the relay. There will always be that one guy/girl you fell in love with while chatting with him. not the love-love thing, but you just both like each other although things went blurry and he will not text you anymore. Sad!

10. Lastly, You swipe every time you are not talking to anybody else.

Funny but real. Why would you swipe if you are currently talking to someone? (unless you are flirting and using dating apps for fun which is not good.) You feel bored because no one is talking to you anymore, yeah, all of those matches were gone, so now, you have to swipe again…

Swiping and sending messages to a new guy/girl? yeah, if you want to take risk, then go, but don’t blame anyone when you end up the same after few months. Why don’t we try to meet friends and from there, we can see if we really clicked? I guess, everything ends with the realization that old school dating is still better than the new dating apps hitting the social media.