You never realize how wrong you are not until someone tells you so.

To you who have loved someone…

You can stop. You can take a rest from having a one-sided love. You can enjoy a day without texting him/her just to make your partner feel so special. Relationships shouldn’t feel like a responsibility. It shouldn’t feel like as if it is mandatory for you to be at ease all the time or to be calm; even the sea goes wild and wrong sometimes. You can push everything away. You are tired and this is not how things should play.

You can blame your partner. Do you think it was only you who made this situation so bad? Do you think it was only you who let all the grudge enter your relationship and stay as horror it can be? Do you think you are so worthless that you cannot even make him/her smile anymore? Isn’t he’s/she’s the one who started to avoid your texts every day? Isn’t he/she was the one who told all your friends that you were tired of fighting?

You can forget him/her but not yourself. You still have exams to do, so get up and don’t fret. Think of school/work rather than loathe because of a self-shattering coldness that your partner is showing you. Ignore his/her presence and focus on the details in your life. Don’t let him/her ruin your plans. Give space for yourself. You can never let yourself move on if you keep thinking about him/her. There’s should always be a room for you to grow up alone.

You can tell your friends, ‘It’s done.’. Don’t be afraid. Be the first person to say it’s over. Be the first person to smile and stand after falling apart. Be the strong one who will fix the things that were thrown for no reason. Friends can sometimes be a li’l pushy but they will eventually understand that everything ends for a reason. Let them adapt to the situation, let them know which side are you comfortable with and which makes you uneasy. Say whatever you feel is wrong.

You can post a long rant on Facebook and tell everyone how you ended the relationship. Awareness is the key not to let the same thing happen again especially to the people whom you love dearly. Tell them how much you have loved him/her. Tell them you are tired of hearing your friends whenever they ask what happened and why it happened.

To you who have loved someone, I may not know who you are but I understand how you feel. Don’t just try to stand, instead, help yourself get through it. I know you need him/her so much that you are still not moving on. I know you are hurt and scared to trust every one. But the moment you help yourself accept the wrong things that are occurring, then you will find yourself saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”, Yes, a reminder from Alfred Lord Tennyson.